"False Happiness"

Why is it that we feel the need to tear each other down in order to build ourselves up? When conversing with a friend are you secretly hoping to hear about some misfortune they may have had or to at least hear of someone else’s bad luck? Even though you may care about or love this person and really wouldn’t want to wish anything bad on them, inside are you having a hard time feeling happy for any good fortune that may have come there way?

I believe most people feel this way, that the few exceptions to this are the ones who are truly and completely happy and satisfied with their lives. Does this make us bad people? No, it’s just a self-defense mechanism built inside us, telling us that if bad things happen to others, our lives may not seem quite as bad. While if others have good fortune, our lives feel just that much worse.

Is it true that the misfortune of others will cause us to be more fortunate? No! The truth is it really has no affect on our being more fortunate, it’s just an illusion our minds create to make us feel better about our own situations. I know we don’t really wish anything bad to happen to anyone, and that we actually feel bad about our minds telling us to hope for something negative to happen to anyone. This is a battle that rages on in our bodies, the good versus evil fight that everyone has inside of them.

Who’s winning the battle in your life? Is it the good or the evil? This ongoing war will be within us our entire lives and it’s in how we deal with it that we truly define ourselves. Sure the world would be a much nicer and happier place if we could all just be happy for one another and help each other any way we could, but we all know that’s just not going to happen anytime soon.

So, what can we do to change this world? All we can really do is to try our best to be the best friend, family member, and human being we can, and to help others to do the same. Let’s lift and assist each other when we’re down, and applaud one another’s accomplishments or good fortune. We can all strive to find joy in each others good luck and maybe take a small piece of each others happiness in the same way we do with the happy ending of a movie.

How do you feel after you just watched a movie with a happy ending? That feeling can be addictive, why not acquire that same type of pleasurable feeling in the real world when good things happen to real people? In your body’s battle of good versus evil get in the habit of questioning any bad intentions you may have or feel, and try to add to your friends’ joy by being excited for them. I’ll bet you’ll feel better about yourself knowing that you helped make your friends good fortune just that much better. That friend will appreciate you that much more.